“Love your enemy.” There are hardly three words we
could string together that would produce more inner dissonance than these. And,
yet: if we cannot learn to love our enemies, we will only continue to reap more
hatred, more division, more strife.
The expression “our world is falling apart” conveys
only a half-truth. If we are to be completely honest, we need to acknowledge it
has been falling apart for a long time now. For as long as we have made enemies
of one another…that is how long the world has been falling apart. That is since
the very dawn of humanity.
So: who is my enemy and how am I to love them?
Everyone has an enemy. They are the people we hate. That is how we know who our
enemy is. As someone who claims to follow Jesus, it is both shocking and
troubling to me that it is very easy for me to identify my enemies. How quickly
their names come to mind! How sad it is that I have risked so little to love
them, and how safe I feel preserving their status as “the enemy” in my heart
and mind.
How am I to love such a person? How am I to love such
a group? How is “my group” to love “their group”? Within the answers to those
questions we find the source of a true and lasting hope. This is the difficult
work of loving one’s enemies.
At its core, what we are after is an end to Othering
the other. At its core, the work of loving one’s enemies involves laying aside
the mindset of “us vs. them”, the “home team” against “the visitors.”
How we speak of one another matters. Do my words
dignify or only serve to divide? Labeling does not help the situation.
An enemy is still a human. Do my words humanize? In my
mind, do I think of my enemy…as human? Is my heart able to see the humanity in
my enemy, even the enemy who dehumanizes another? If I answer someone’s
dehumanizing words and actions by dehumanizing them in return, what progress
have I made? I must come to see that I cannot take a stand for truth by
dehumanizing another, since truth is always a humanizing force. The commonality
of our very humanity…rests upon truth. Truth dignifies.
These questions make me so uncomfortable. Surely this
is the hardest thing to do…to love one’s enemy. And, yet: if we are to know
peace within and without, it is the one task that must be done.
To be sure, there is hope. This has been done before.
Enemies can become friends.
Surely this moment in history is a moment where we all
have plenty of opportunities to practice loving our enemies. We will never
perfect the art of it, but let us not give up rehearsing the new rhythms of it.
We can take a stand for truth and humanize the Other at the same time. It’s
hard, but we can do it.
We must do it. It is the only way out of our divisive
enmity. May it be so.
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Love Your Enemies
reflections by troy cady
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